If motherhood has taught me anything, it is that being open and honest about my feelings is one of the best therapeutic escapes. It’s hard as heck to be a mom. 

We’re tired, flustered, somewhat unappreciated, and at times, shoved to the side because everyone else seems to be a little more important. 

I don’t know about you, but being a stay at home mom has trapped me into this idea of “the kids are my priority and they need me the most”. I spend my day making sure I keep two little wild human beings alive and happy, so by the time my husband gets home from work, I have nothing left for him. For the longest time, I would tell myself “the kids are young, they need me more”. But boy, was I just telling myself a lie. 

So, let’s get to the title of this article. Your husband is and SHOULD always be as important to you as your children. 

I know that sounds crazy, but at least in my situation, I put my kids first and my relationship with my husband second. However if you pause for a moment and really think about it, your relationship as a couple sets the foundation for your entire family relationship. 

So, I decided to delete most of my social media, reach out to a marriage counsellor and have started planning more dates with my husband. I’m not even close to being embarrassed or ashamed to admit this because of how important it is. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a bad wife, but I do need to work on being a better wife.

I’m an amazing mom and I think I can speak for a lot of moms, being the best mom is our main priority. But can you honestly say you’re the best wife as well? If you can, that’s absolutely amazing. 

IF YOU CAN’T, don’t you dare be ashamed and try to make a little more effort for your significant other. 

I’m not saying change things with your children, but ask yourself if you give your husband the same attention and energy you give your children. And if that answer is no, then I hope this article has made you think about your family as a whole and not just as a mother to children. 

Your relationship with your husband is just as, if not more, important than the relationship you have with your children.

Let’s not just be amazing moms!