3 Books Every Boy Momma Should Read
As a momma to two littles, I have realized that raising a boy is much different than raising a girl.
My son is all boy and all energy wrapped into one. We were having trouble with his daycare and the teachers were frequently sending him home or putting him in time out, because they didn't think that he was well mannered and he was just too "rambunctious". But in all honesty, he was just bored.
Let me tell you, I had a lot of tears and stress and worry over this. I wondered what I was doing wrong. While some would like to label him as ADHD at only 4-years-old, I wasn't entirely convinced. So instead of listening to everyone else, I did what I do best.... I read a lot of books!
Some of the books that I read were extremely helpful, while others were not really a waste of time, but just not helpful or they weren't really teaching me anything I didn't already know. To save you the trouble that I went through, I have listed out the 3 books I think every boy mom should read. Especially if that boy has some high energy!
1. No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury
I found Janet first when I started listening to her podcast Unruffled (which is great, you should really check it out). She teaches about respectful parenting and how to stop feeling frustrated with your children and instead love your time with them. While I was wondering how to help my son in school, I read Janet's book and the way I looked at the situation completely changed.
Instead of thinking his energy as defiant, I began to see how we could best focus that energy on something good. He wasn't a bad kid, he just needed to learn the best ways to free up that energy. After reading No Bad Kids, I saw a change in my son at home, because of the steps I was taking to help him. But you can only do so much for the teachers at his school, so I started teaching him that he wasn't a bad kid or a troublemaker and I began to show him how to recognize this. Finally, I took him out of that school because it was clear that the teachers had already labeled him and there would be no changing how they treated my son.
2. The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle
Carol opens up the idea that each child is unique and what works for one child might not work for another child. She teaches parents that there are 4 types of children: fun-loving child; sensitive child; determined child; and the more serious child. My son is certainly a type one, often times this type is considered hyperactive or ADHD.
By reading Carol's book, I was able to figure out that what works for my son who is a type 1 is not always going to work for my daughter who is a type 3. She not only explains each type of child, but also gives you "tips" on how to support your child in ways that are going to work for them, in a way that will allow you to communicate with one another.
p.s. if you have Kindle Unlimited you can even get this one for free!
3. No Better Mom for the Job by Becky Keife
If you are anything like me, you might sometimes look at other moms and think "man, they are on top of it. I don't know what I am doing." I would doubt myself on a daily basis. No Better Mom for the Job is a book that is for any mom who believes that another mom would do better in their place. Becky teaches you how to banish these negative thoughts and start a healthy internal dialogue with yourself.
For me personally, it helped me realize my strengths and weaknesses so that I can focus on the good while building up the bad. While I sat and read the book, I felt like I was having a cup of coffee with my best friend and chatting about my life struggles. She writes in such a way that you don't feel judged but instead you are among other mom friends who get you.
Each mom is different and in turn every child is also different. We all come with our own little mix of personality. But of all the books I have read, these three are the ones that have stood out to me, I highly recommend them to any of my mom friends, but even more so I have recommended them to my boy mom friends!