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How to deal with Mom Guilt and a lack of Self Care
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How to deal with Mom Guilt and a lack of Self Care

Mom Guilt, we’ve all experienced it in one way or another. Personally, I’ve been experiencing it a lot lately. I find myself having many mom tantrums and even occasionally just standing in the middle of the room and simply staring off into the midst of nothingness. 


What changed? Maybe it was more things being added to my schedule? A lack of sleep? 


I had no idea, but I made it my mission to figure it out. 


I knew whatever it was, I suddenly felt disconnected from everything and everyone. My heart was closed off and I felt like I had nothing left to give. The things that normally would have made me laugh, suddenly bothered me. I knew I needed to reevaluate everything, and fast. 


My mom guilt started when I put all my focus and attention into my son and none into myself.


I made everything about him, around the clock, 24/7. When he refused to take his bottle, I’d accommodate him in a different way. On days he refused to nap, I felt like I had no choice but to stay awake with him. This drained me really fast. 


I now know that I can’t give 100% to my son if I’m giving 0% to myself.


If I have nothing left in my bank, my son will notice a shift in my mood and that will affect him as well. I realized the best way for me to balance motherhood and not experience too much mom guilt is to decide to focus on myself from time to time and to understand that I’m doing my absolute best. My son won’t remember the times I needed a break. However, he will remember the times I was physically present but emotionally and mentally absent. 


Whenever you feel guilty, I want you to remember, in the midst of taking care of baby, mom is often, if not always, forgotten. It’s important to remember that you need to be taken care of as well. 


Do you personally experience mom guilt? And if so, how do you cope with it? I would love to know your thoughts and feelings!

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Rochelle B

I am a mom to an amazing baby boy. He is the sweetest, most happiest baby I’ve ever met. His giggles and drive to be ahead of his time is absolutely amazing. Since becoming a mom I have found a love for lots of coffee and the occasional sip of wine.

My husband and I have been together for seven years and married for three. Life with him has been an adventure of of ups and downs with lots of laughter in between. We love to travel even if it’s just to new places within our state. We have two fur babies, Givenchy and Louis, one an adopted morkie and the other a rescued unknown.

Being a mother is by far the hardest "job" I've ever had but also the most rewarding. I love sharing my stories and tips that I've stumbled upon along the way. I started blogging two years ago as an outlet. Since having my son I’ve started blogging more about motherhood and all its truths. If you want pure honesty with a bit of giggles along the way, follow me on this crazy adventurous ride.

www.simplyrochelle.com
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